Comfort Zone

Contoh Situasi A

Anda ada duit dalam bank. Tak banyak, tak sikit. Tapi cukup untuk anda membeli belah barang-barang kegemaran anda yang anda sudah lama aim. Nak dijadikan cerita the mall is having a sales, dimana inilah peluang keemasan anda untuk membeli barang-barangan tersebut pada harga yang lebih murah. Tetapi last2 anda tak beli pun barang tersebut. Bukan sebab duit tak cukup and bukan sebab anda nak berjimat pun. Tapi anda takut anda menyesal membeli barangan tersebut. Apabila duit masih di tangan anda, anda lebih rasa powerful. Maybe perasaan ‘mampu’ beli tu wujud. Jika anda spend awal2 duit tersebut untuk membeli barang A, anda akan rasa hapless apabila anda melihat barang B. Baik jangan spend, fikir anda.

Contoh Situasi B

Ali berkawan lama dah dengan Milah. They were the best of friends until one day Ali realized that he has feelings for her. Milah feels the same way too, and Ali knows that. Tapi Ali never make an effort to woo her, apatah lagi nak try to move on to the next stage of the relationship. Bukan sebab Ali bacul, takda teloq or tak berani. Tapi sebab Ali rasa what they already have is wonderful; by being bestfriend. Ali takut that he might found out something about Milah that will ruin the relationship. Ali jugak takut that she might found out something about him that she don’t like. Baik tak payah become an item, fikir Ali.

Contoh Situasi C

Aku baru ja bukak sebuah engineering firm. Sebagai sebuah small-medium enterprise in the country, money is very hard to come by. Aku sepatutnya awal2 lagi dah cari customer. Making calls and setting up appointments. Tapi aku dok bazir masa fikir macam mana nak susun pejabat aku, fikir pen apa yang aku nak guna untuk sign documents, and fikir colour apa yang sesuai untuk signboard pejabat aku. Padahal benda-benda ni kalau nak buat sat ja. The longer I put off starting my own firm, the longer it can remain a dream and not something that I screwed up at. Baik aku take my own sweet time enjoying the moment, fikir aku.

I am that kind of a guy who’s afraid to step out of my comfort zone. Well, not all the time la of course. But most of the time, I’d rather play it safe in order for things to fit my views of the world. I am so afraid of mistakes, rejections, regrets, and things resulted from any ‘step-out-of-my-comfort-zone actions.’ It’s been a while since I made this kind of decisions; the last being my decision to run for student representative councils election a year ago. I wonder when the next one is going to be?

Shutting them up

One word. Overjoyed. Overjoyed to see my brother received countless of offers to pursue his tertiary education. Adam had to go down a different path in his academic world. Unlike me, I was given the luxury and bless by Allah to do well in my studies. But Adam is different. He has difficulty in studying. However, Adam is special. He is blessed with multiple talents in sports.

In this country that prioritize academic achievement, the future looks bleak for Adam. Albeit, he never gives up. I remembered years ago, when Adam got his UPSR result. He cried. He asked what is wrong with him. He asked why cant he be like me, but we convinced him that Allah has better plans for him. And indeed it was true.

Walaupun result UPSR Adam tak elok, dia berjaya masuk Penang Free; sekolah yang semua ahli keluarga lelaki aku attend. Kalau ikut result dia tak layak masuk, tapi disebabkan Penang Free ada sign memorandum pembangunan sukan dengan Persatuan Kriket Melayu Malaysia, Adam was offered a place. My mother is a teacher dekat Penang Free. Sometimes my mom got hurt when she listened to some cikgu2 menggelabah yang buat PFS-hanya-untuk-budak-pandai-anak-hang-pandaikah punya remark. Ada jugak yang pandai2 kata Adam got through because guna kabel (masa tu bapak aku Pegawai Pendidikan Daerah). Macam-macam.

These beladi comments shattered Adam's motivation. But we family stood together. Sikit-sikit, Adam prove to them that PFS needs him more than he needs PFS. Dia harumkan nama sekolah. Dia menang tournament tu, dia menang tournament ni. Often, his team makes the news in the newspaper. He played for the state, and even for the country. Heck he was the first malay to be appointed as the Penang captain. And he delivers well. Under his leadership Penang won the MSSM tournament for the first time in their history. He was also the skipper for the country. Little by little people stopped questioning.

But still, Adam was worried. Playing crickets has taken its toll on him. It requires him to travel a lot, domestically and internationally. Therefore he had to miss class and studies. Some people, instead of being supportive try to break my mom by saying that sports is not going to get Adam anywhere. Mak mana yang tak tersinggung bila orang kata kat anak dia, but she's tougher than ever. We kept our faith, and support him all the way. Alhamdulillah, Adam did well in his SPM.

Apart from receiving tons of offers, Kriket Melayu also offered him a scholarship to study in UKM. The best thing is, he can pick any course he wants offered there. And yes, a degree course. Tak payah go through matrik, stpm or diploma.

Sounds too good to be true, isn't it? The whole family is happy for him. Adam had successfully silent his critics. He proves them wrong. He shut them up. We showed that by having faith and belief, we can achieve anything we want. Adam, I am so proud of you. You always tell me how much you envied me, but in truth it's the other way around. I have a great deal of envy and respect in you too. But you have to remember, this is just the beginning. Lots of things coming your way, so work hard okay? I cant talk to you verbally because you know...kita laki. Susah kita nak cakap bab-bab macam ni face to face. Tak macho aahh. Hehe. Have a great journey ahead and choose the offers wisely.

ok cun.

Competitions

Okay let's face it. We compete in life. Sapa lagi cantik, sapa lagi pandai, sapa lagi kaya, sapa lagi banyak tembak orang awam yang menaiki kenderaan , sapa lagi hebat dan mcm-mcm lagi. Ciri-ciri competitiveness bagi aku ialah:

1. Super Kiasu- Tak boleh mengaku kalah langsung.

2. Kalau seseorang tu tau something, sedaya upaya dia sorok/tak bagitau. Kedekut ilmu.

3. Terlalu busybody ambik tau pasal prestasi arch enemy dia.

4. Jealous tak bertempat bila orang lain lebih dari dia especially arch enemy dia.

5. Sanggup main kotor, semata-mata nak lebih/menang.

Semua orang competitive dalam dunia ni. Me included. Tapi the degree of competitiveness tu kita yang tentukan. The question lies in "In what field should we get competitive and in what field we shouldn't?". We have to answer that questions and decide. I'm not saying that competitiveness is bad or competitiveness is good. I'm saying neither. Bagi aku dua-dua pun ada kelebihan dan kekurangan dia. Sebab tu aku percaya yang kita perlu mengalokasikan darjah kompetitif kita.

Aku tadak keja tadi, so aku berjaya list down bidang apa yang aku competitive dan bidang apa yang aku tak competitive.

Competitive

Bola Sepak/Futsal

Bab ni memang aku competitive. Aku memang tak boleh kalau orang lebih daripada aku. Aku sakit ati. Kalau ada budak dok menunjuk-nunjuk depan aku dia punya skill joga bonito dalam game, memang aku aim budak tu untuk beat dia. Selalu Kadang-kadang ada gak la main kotor. Aku tarik baju, tolak, buat high tackle, tarik an* dia dan macam2 lagi. (tapi make sure referee tak nampak la) Bukan bab main sahaja, bab sokong pun aku competitive. Aku cukup benci bila team yang aku sokong kalah. Tu dia. haha. Bola sepak tu macam maruah aku. Orang boleh kutuk apa saja pasal aku, tapi jangan insult aku punya bola sepak.

Dota.

One of my favourite game is Defense of the Ancients. Aku selalu main Dota melalui pelantar Garena. Melalui software tu, aku boleh main Dota dengan gamer2 lain dari seluruh Malaysia. And of course, bila main game, kutuk mengutuk perkara biasa. Aku salah hang, hang salah aku. Macam-macam. Perkataan yang salu orang pakai dalam Dota is noob. Noob tu macam perkataan newbie la tp teruk sket. Aku cukup marah kalau apek-apek cina dalam dota panggil aku noob. Bagi aku, aku lebih rela kalau depa mencarut kat aku daripada panggil aku noob. Aku tak reti nak explain camna, cuma gamer2 hardcore ja paham. hehe. Tu dia.

Tak competitive.

Study.

Aku memang tak suka competition in studies. Bila aku masuk MRSM, aku di diperkenalkan dengan sistem class streaming. Yang pandai dok kelas Alpha. Yang kurang pandai dok kelas Delta. Aku memang benci gila dengan sistem ni. Sebab tu la ramai orang kena tangkap meniru time exam. Pressure to compete tu tinggi sangat. Sampai la skarang, aku tak pernah fikir nak compete. Aku tak pernah rasa terancam kalau someone beat aku. Bagi aku, aku tak perlu nak score highest, cukup la lepas nak dapat A. I dont concentrate on others, instead I just concentrate on myself to do well. I dont care how well others did, as long as I did the best I could. Watpa nak kaypo pasal orang lain? And aku sentiasa share dengan kawan-kawan aku kalau aku tau something. Ada orang tu kiasu sangat, bila dia tau something dia takmau bgtau kawan2 dia, padahal dia tau pun sebab dia pi jumpa lecturer.

Sembang.

Orang panggil sembang kencang, atau sembang tak jatuh, atau sembang kuat, atau sembang deshu-deshu (deshu2 tu bunyi angin) dan yang sewaktu dengannya. Lumrah. Orang lelaki bila dia bersembang, dia suka emphasize dia punya status. "Aku ada girlfriend hot, aku ada motor laju, aku ada banyak duit, aku bila pi lepak gym semua pompuan usha aku". Mcm2 benda yang boleh dicakapkan. Kadang-kadang tu boleh nampak sangt yang depa tengah lawan, bukan sembang. Dalam department ni aku tak competitive sangat. I prefer humbleness. Cewah. Haha. Walk the walk and talk the talk. I prefer others to do the talking for me. I don tell my tales, I let others tell my tales. :D Walaupun crita aku boleh 'menang' and lagi 'kuat' dari cerita mat-mat sembang deras ni, aku akan diam.

Actually banyak lagi, tapi aku rasa macam lagi banyak aku crita lagi terbukak pekung di dada. Ahaha. Malu weh. So enough la. Till then

ok cun