Kenduri

In movies and in real life, preparations for wedding receptions are always heavily conducted by the bride to be. The groom? Excuse me, sila dok tepi sat. Ampa taktau apa-apa. You see, for girls, their dreams of having that perfect wedding was imprinted in their DNA long before they could even understand the concept of marriage. It started when they were a little kid where they watched all these princesses movies from disney's and started playing with barbies. Ok I might overblown stuff and exaggerated a little bit, but you get the idea. The point is they already have a clear idea on how their wedding is going to be.

They knew what kind of flowers they want, they knew what are the concepts and themes for the wedding, what type of band or dj they wanted, what kind of meals and foods are to be served and many more. Heck, there are some who kept a scrap book collecting every little details for their wedding. Kinda like a wedding planner. Of course, the groom also has a say in the decision making, but it'll look more or less like this:

But if that is something the bride wants, who are the grooms we to say no? biaq ja la. Let them have it their way. Tu impian depa. Tu maruah depa. Not in the sense that depa takut orang kampung nanti mengata kalau kenduri depa tak grand/best (though it's partly true >.<), but maruah in the sense that the flawlessness of their wedding compensates and align with their childhood princess dreams. Nama pun raja sehari. Biarlah perfect di mata depa. So bakal2 grooms, tahan ja la sat dengan karenah depa. Kalau depa nak lampu lip lap kat pelamin, ikut ja. Kalau depa nak pre wedding photo session, ikut ja. Kalau depa nak pasukan kompang yang boleh main lagu Brian McKnight 'Back at One' pun ikut ja. Kalau depa nak orang pakai costume storm trooper from star wars jadi guard of honour...well good for you!

There are no right or wrong way of doing it, but still, these topics are always up for a debate. Yang lelaki akan cakap perempuan suka membazir and yang perempuan akan cakap lelaki kedekut or tak tunjuk kesungguhan dalam marriage. Kemudian yang laki cakap life after the wedding yg lagi important, and perempuan akan cakap yang kawen ni sekali ja seumur hidup why not spend a lil bit more. Yang laki akan cakap buat yang wajib and ikut sunnah dahlah, dan prempuan plak nnt cakap kakak adik depa depa suma buat kenduri sempoi-sempoi and adat pun penting jugak. And the list goes on and on.

But I think there are always room for negotiation. I think both sides can meet in the middle in finding the equilibrium between having a nice wedding and saving cost. Semuanya atas kemampuan dan citarasa masing-masing. Ingat, nak mendirikan masjid, nak menyatukan dua keluarga dan bina keluarga sendiri. EnshaAllah semua dispute akan hilang. haha okay, i might get bashed and i might get some stick, i know. Some of my remarks about women are a little blown out of proportion. Tak semua perempuan macam tu and nowadays, ramai ja yang memahami. Haha dan2 cover. >.<